Question:
Why is that whenever I have sex with my boy friend, I don’t really feel that excitement, even when penis already went into my vagina, I don’t really feel there is something in there. I will only get orgasm when he touches my clitoris. We have sex for the past 3 months, my boy friend has experienced with his ex-es, but they were all fine. Why is that I am different? Furthermore, when I finished my period, I always feel itchiness and pain down there, why? Is it because of sanitary pads? I always put one layer of tissue paper on top of the sanitary pads, and always change sanitary pads, why is that so?

Answer:
Most women climax when their clitoris is stimulated and this is because it contains an extensive network of nerves. Some women who are conscious of their vagina might be able to experience vaginal climax when a certain area of the vagina gets stimulated. This area is concentrated in the upper portion of the vagina and about 2-4cm from the entrance of the vaginal entrance, an area known as the G-Spot or the AFE Zone. You can try to locate this spot by hooking your middle finger to that area and do a digital massage. You will experience a sudden urge to pass urine when you reach the spot. Of course the urge to pass urine is just a feeling that you will get when that spot is stimulated and if you continue the stimulation you might even ‘ejaculate’ and not pee! Regarding pain and itchiness of the vulva (the female external genital organs), it might be due to dryness or skin contact with the pad or both. You can apply some moisturizer before you put the pad. If there is pain it might indicate inflammation. If this persist you need to see your doctor because you might be suffering from vulvitis ( inflammation of the vulva) I would recommend that you apply a skin protectant formula recommended for vulva regularly, after bath.