Question:
My partner has been telling me that recently when we’re having sex she gets “too wet” and that it numbs her up and she can’t orgasm. Is that possible? I have no idea what to do, please help!
Answer:
Sex can be a wonderful experience if both parties enjoy every moment of it. If one party feels uncomfortable, the other party needs to make adjustment to ensure the issue is resolved. Sometimes it takes courage to make an appointment with the Sexologist or Therapist to discuss the situation and to get professional remedy. Being too wet can be a turn off to both the woman and her partner. Sometimes it is the women that feel the displeasure since the wetness is due to her partner’s precome secretions that were too abundant to her liking. If that is an issue, the partner needs to take antihistamine before having sex so that his precome is less copious. If on the other hand the copious secretions are coming from her she need to get herself examined if the secretions are due to vaginal irritations caused by some irritants or contaminations. This condition is known as leucorrhea or white discharge. Sometimes mild vaginal irritation can cause the discomfort and the numbing or blistering feeling and leucorrhea. If the secretions are just the result of hyperactive cervical secretions or vaginal mucosal lining, the secretions can also be reduced by taking antihistamines prior to sex. She can soaked her private part with alum to tighten the mucosa or take capsules of Oak Gall extract (available in most pharmacy as an OTC Product) and if all these measures are futile, she needs to see a Gynecologist.
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Bladder Blues
Question: I am a married woman whose husband is often away on extended trips. It seems like every time I have sex after a break I get a urinary tract or bladder infection. What causes this, and what can I do to prevent it? My doctor keeps prescribing antibiotics which work, but can I do anything to prevent it in the first place?
Answer: Honeymoon cystitis gets it name because the frequency of urination and pain and discomfort that follows with the urination occurs after each episode of sexual intercourse. The inflammation of the base of the bladder is attributed to the ascending infection from the inflamed pee hole which occurs during rapid penile thrust to that area. In most cases the episode of cystitis usually disappears as the pee hole area is more resilient to the penile assault. In case where sexual intercourse is not frequent, the pee hole is is no longer resilient and can get inflamed and cause ascending infection that may flare up as a urinary tract infection. In such event urinary antibiotics are usually prescribed by the doctor. There were some suggestions that may remedy this incessant problem. One is to pee after each episode of love making. This might interfere with the pooling of semen in the vaginal pool, for the purpose of planning for a baby. Another way is to ensure that penile trust is not directed to the pee hole, in other words to change position or assume a position that may prevent direct assault of the penis to the pee hole area.
Answer: Honeymoon cystitis gets it name because the frequency of urination and pain and discomfort that follows with the urination occurs after each episode of sexual intercourse. The inflammation of the base of the bladder is attributed to the ascending infection from the inflamed pee hole which occurs during rapid penile thrust to that area. In most cases the episode of cystitis usually disappears as the pee hole area is more resilient to the penile assault. In case where sexual intercourse is not frequent, the pee hole is is no longer resilient and can get inflamed and cause ascending infection that may flare up as a urinary tract infection. In such event urinary antibiotics are usually prescribed by the doctor. There were some suggestions that may remedy this incessant problem. One is to pee after each episode of love making. This might interfere with the pooling of semen in the vaginal pool, for the purpose of planning for a baby. Another way is to ensure that penile trust is not directed to the pee hole, in other words to change position or assume a position that may prevent direct assault of the penis to the pee hole area.
Sexual Myths Exposed
When it comes to pleasure or protection, sex myths are common. Here are a few fallacies when it comes to conception or Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD):
MYTH: You can’t get pregnant if a man “pulls out” before he ejaculates. TRUTH: While sperm is concentrated in semen (what he expels when he ejaculates), sperm can still be present in seminal fluid – the clear, sticky substance released continuously from first moments of arousal. Of the millions of sperm present during ejaculation, it only takes one to become pregnant. And while a man may have every intention of “pulling out” at the proper moment (coitus interruptus), the heat of the moment can sometimes be too overwhelming to time it right. Semen and other fluids can also carry STDs.
MYTH: You can’t get pregnant during your period. TRUTH: Your period is a function of expelling unfertilised eggs; however, there is a chance that one could remain (that’s all it takes) at this point in your menstrual cycle. What’s more, sperm can survive for up to seven days (on average, three) in the female reproductive tract. You are also very prone to conceive at the end of your cycle (just prior to your period) when production of eggs is at its highest.
MYTH: You can’t get pregnant having sex standing up or while in the shower or bath. TRUTH: Sex without protection or contraception in any position, anywhere, anytime can result in pregnancy. Sperm migrate towards the ovaries, irrespective of gravity. Unprotected sex also increases the risk of an STD infection.
MYTH: You don’t need a condom for oral sex.
TRUTH: A dangerous myth, especially in these times of STDs. Used correctly, a condom protects against infection during sex, whether oral, anal or vaginal. In the case of oral sex, ESP Fun Pleasures Condoms (chocolate, amaretto and caramel flavors) can sweeten the experience as well as making it more fun.
MYTH: Condoms take away pleasure. TRUTH: With significant advancements in the making of condoms over the past few years, the sexual experience can, in fact, be heightened by using one. ESP Skin Pleasures Condoms have been reported as “practically invisible” by users and do not hamper sexual pleasure. ESP Xtra Pleasures Condoms are reported by both men and women to enhance intercourse with even greater stimulation. If a partner refuses to wear a condom, think carefully before consent, Sexually Transmitted Diseases(STD) can last a lifetime.
MYTH: You can’t get pregnant if a man “pulls out” before he ejaculates. TRUTH: While sperm is concentrated in semen (what he expels when he ejaculates), sperm can still be present in seminal fluid – the clear, sticky substance released continuously from first moments of arousal. Of the millions of sperm present during ejaculation, it only takes one to become pregnant. And while a man may have every intention of “pulling out” at the proper moment (coitus interruptus), the heat of the moment can sometimes be too overwhelming to time it right. Semen and other fluids can also carry STDs.
MYTH: You can’t get pregnant during your period. TRUTH: Your period is a function of expelling unfertilised eggs; however, there is a chance that one could remain (that’s all it takes) at this point in your menstrual cycle. What’s more, sperm can survive for up to seven days (on average, three) in the female reproductive tract. You are also very prone to conceive at the end of your cycle (just prior to your period) when production of eggs is at its highest.
MYTH: You can’t get pregnant having sex standing up or while in the shower or bath. TRUTH: Sex without protection or contraception in any position, anywhere, anytime can result in pregnancy. Sperm migrate towards the ovaries, irrespective of gravity. Unprotected sex also increases the risk of an STD infection.
MYTH: You don’t need a condom for oral sex.
TRUTH: A dangerous myth, especially in these times of STDs. Used correctly, a condom protects against infection during sex, whether oral, anal or vaginal. In the case of oral sex, ESP Fun Pleasures Condoms (chocolate, amaretto and caramel flavors) can sweeten the experience as well as making it more fun.
MYTH: Condoms take away pleasure. TRUTH: With significant advancements in the making of condoms over the past few years, the sexual experience can, in fact, be heightened by using one. ESP Skin Pleasures Condoms have been reported as “practically invisible” by users and do not hamper sexual pleasure. ESP Xtra Pleasures Condoms are reported by both men and women to enhance intercourse with even greater stimulation. If a partner refuses to wear a condom, think carefully before consent, Sexually Transmitted Diseases(STD) can last a lifetime.