Question:
I was a virgin until my wedding day. The problem is on my first night with my husband, I did not bleed at all. Now my husband is having doubts about my virginity. Why did this happen and how can I convince my husband that I’m not lying to him?

Answer:
It is sad to know that at this modern time we still have men who are ignorant about the meaning of virginity. Virginity is a status and not a thing. That piece of thin flesh that covers the vaginal entrance, the so-called hymen may be present and may not be present naturally and even if it is present it can remain so even after sexual penetration if it is elastic and therefore is not a sign of virginity. A tear in the vaginal entrance or a tear of the hymen may be caused by a penetrating injury and not necessarily caused buy an erect penis if the woman claims so. Therefore the question of virginity does not arise if the woman insists she has not had penetrative sex with a man. The issue here is plain trust! Furthermore there is no reason for the woman to bleed if she relaxes her well lubricated vaginal entrance to accommodate the erect penis and more so if the penis is miniscule. Grow up man!

Question:
is there something wrong with me? Because every time I come home from work I run to my bedroom and jump on my husband to have sex with him.

Answer:
You have a normal sexual desire and you are expressing in the proper way, that is with the person you love and are committed to. Unlike some other who are extremely randy and horney and whose sexual desire is just to much to be handled by one person, the so called hypersex individual. This type of person, the layman term used is nymphomaniac, is never satisfied. The clinical conditions that include the concept of high levels of sexual desire and/or activity are hypersexuality and sexual addiction or compulsivity. The central features of these disorders are that sexual activity is an insatiable need, often interfering with other areas of everyday functioning; sex is impersonal, with no emotional intimacy; and despite frequent orgasms, sexual activity is generally not satisfying.
I am sure your husband is enjoying all the attention you are giving him and he will not be in any mood to stray!

Question:
Why is that whenever I have sex with my boy friend, I don’t really feel that excitement, even when penis already went into my vagina, I don’t really feel there is something in there. I will only get orgasm when he touches my clitoris. We have sex for the past 3 months, my boy friend has experienced with his ex-es, but they were all fine. Why is that I am different? Furthermore, when I finished my period, I always feel itchiness and pain down there, why? Is it because of sanitary pads? I always put one layer of tissue paper on top of the sanitary pads, and always change sanitary pads, why is that so?

Answer:
Most women climax when their clitoris is stimulated and this is because it contains an extensive network of nerves. Some women who are conscious of their vagina might be able to experience vaginal climax when a certain area of the vagina gets stimulated. This area is concentrated in the upper portion of the vagina and about 2-4cm from the entrance of the vaginal entrance, an area known as the G-Spot or the AFE Zone. You can try to locate this spot by hooking your middle finger to that area and do a digital massage. You will experience a sudden urge to pass urine when you reach the spot. Of course the urge to pass urine is just a feeling that you will get when that spot is stimulated and if you continue the stimulation you might even ‘ejaculate’ and not pee! Regarding pain and itchiness of the vulva (the female external genital organs), it might be due to dryness or skin contact with the pad or both. You can apply some moisturizer before you put the pad. If there is pain it might indicate inflammation. If this persist you need to see your doctor because you might be suffering from vulvitis ( inflammation of the vulva) I would recommend that you apply a skin protectant formula recommended for vulva regularly, after bath.

Question:
My god brother’s penis curls for about one year already. In 2006, his penis was absolutely normal, but out of a sudden, it became curls to the left side;

1) Why that penis is will curl suddenly?
2) How to cure?
3) Is it because of masturbation?
4) Does it help by massaging?

Answer:
Penis does not curl but bends. If the bending is severe then lovemaking would be difficult. If the bend is mild and can me straightened when it is erect, then it is possible to perform lovemaking with the female partner. However in a condition known as Peyronie’s disease, the bending of the penis become progressively severe over time. This is because of the formation of plaque or hardening of the thick covering of the penis that become hardened for reasons unknown. I would advise your god brother to seek professional help rather than trying to handle this problem on his own. Massaging his penis might worsen the condition!

 

“What do you see in him?” “She’s amazing!” Ever wonder where your sexual response comes from?

Question: I am 20 yr old, I lost my mum when I was very small, so all these while I am close with my dad, we are quite open in some sex related topics. Dad even brought me to do circumcision. When I was small, dad taught me to wash my rectum with hose water after passing motion, he said this is very hygienic. Besides that, he even massaged my prostate by putting his finger into my rectum. Now that I am grown up, he suggested me to do prostate massage once or twice within a week, is prostate massage any good?
Answer: Prostatic massage is usually done by doctors to express prostatic secretions in male patients with urethral discharge to look for the bugs that cause the infection. This is not a routine exercise even though prostate is believed to be the seat for the male ‘G-Spot. The best way to express out your prostate content is to masturbate! but not prostatic massage. Furthermore shoving your finger into your anal passage regularly to do prostatic massage will cause trauma to the mucous lining of that tract. I would not recommend you to continue with this habit.

Question: Can you settle an argument and tell me whether any of the “natural” methods for penis enlargement are worthwhile?

Answer:
I assume natural methods of penis enlargement would include taking herbal preparation, penile massage, using vacuum erect aid device or jelquing (a contraption that pulls the soft penis to create some kind of inflammatory response ) or using a penile extender device, Andropenis (www.andromedical.com). I must admit the various natural penile enlargement pills mentioned in the various websites that claim miraculous effect of these pills are just difficult to believe. Most of these natural herbs are just testosterone boosters like Tribulus, maca, epimedium and long jack (tongkat ali) which might be useful for men with low testosterone and hardly for guys with normal testosterone with undersize genitals.The vacuum pump when used will facilitate blood flow into the penile musculature and will make the penis appear ‘big’. Once the vacuum effect is released, the size will remain the same. If the vacuum device is used regularly and frequently, one may risk developing blisters and blood clots. Experience with the vacuum pump device for enlargement of penis has been reported as disappointing and most of the guys who have been duped to use the device end up with getting an elongated penile skin! rather than the penis. The penile extender which has been in the global market has been evaluated to the best ever device in managing crooked penis ( Peyronie Disease) as well, as the under size one. The Andropenis has been evaluated and scientifically proven to be effective in correcting curved penis as well as undersize penis. The device need to be worn at least 9-10 hours at a stretch to create the tissue response to pressure, that is formation of new cells and extension of the stressed tissues. Results are obvious after a minimum use of 3 months or more. Most of the scientific reports are found in the website www.andromedical.com. This device has been available in Malaysia since two years and more than 200 sets have been sold.

Question: Myself and my husband had intercourse on 15th day after my menstrual cycle. I am so scared that I will get pregnant since we didn’t have any protection. If I got pregnant and I came to know during my 1 month – Is there any medication to abort without going to doctor?

Answer:
May you be reminded that unprotected intercourse, even during the so called ‘Safe Period’ can still lead to unwanted pregnancy. Therefore it is always recommended that one use some form of contraception if one is not planning for a baby soon. In the event you are pregnant and not keen for the pregnancy, then you need to see a doctor that can offer you a safe abortion. You can go for medical abortion (provided this option is available in your place/Country) if your pregnancy is early, that is not more than 9 week pregnant. That too if you are suitable for that option. If you are not a suitable candidate then your doctor will talk to you about surgical technique, namely the abortion by aspiration. In whatever ways, you still need to see a doctor and not try anything at home. With regards to Medical Abortion, the information below might be of interest to you. Whatever is your choice you still need to discuss this with your Medical Health Care provider.
Medical Abortion with Mifepristone and Misoprostol