Question:
I have been married to my wife for 10 years, and she has been cheating the whole time. She decided to stop cheating and wants to build our relationship, but to be quite honest, I am horrible with sex, romance and foreplay. I always have to ask her for sex and most of the time, she just does it with me because I nag her to death. I need advice on how to get what I want with sex, foreplay and love. My confidence level is so low and I am also about 20 kilos overweight. Plus, I get off in like one minute and although I’ve been reading about how to be a better lover, frankly, it is just not helping. Please help!
Answer:
It can be disturbing when one finds out that ones partner cheats. However, it is more disturbing when the real reason for the cheating falls on ones shoulder, in this case, failure to satisfy the partners sexual needs. Reading sex guide will be rather a futile attempt if one has no interest in sex. On the other hand, it is just not right to have sex with no feelings. Sex is not just a physical thing; it involves emotion and bonding between the partners. May be sex is not what the woman want, it is the caring and the loving. That is probably the reason why the partner decides to stop cheating and wants to build the relationship. Tender loving care is not just humping. It is more than that. The touching is more enjoyable than the penetration and after all, once ejaculation has taken place, the curtain falls. It is different when the skin touches the lips are locked and passion flows. Oral sex can be wonderful and pleasurable as well. Do something about the weight and stop nagging. Seek professional help when one has rapid ejaculation. There are numerous treatment options available. It is advisable for both couples to see the doctor so that both parties are aware and would be able to help each other. After all that is what marriage is all about caring for each other.