Question:
I have been married for 3 years. In the first year my husband and I had sex very often but recently my husband finds it difficult to get an erection. We’ve talked about it and he confessed that his penis feels weak. He says that his work has been giving him more stress than usual and he feels a little run down. Could this be the problem or do we need to get really worried? My husband is 30.

Answer:
When the penis is not sufficiently firm for vaginal penetration then the person is said to have erectile dysfunction or ED. If this happens on and off and persists for 6 months then the ED is a mild one. If this happens very often and persists for 6 months then the ED is of moderate form and if there is no erection and this persists for 6 months then this is known as total ED.
If a man can achieved morning erection more often than none then he has normal penile function. Lack of sleep and stress can interferes with normal penile function. ED has been associated with smoking, drinking, weight problems, lack of physical exercises and stress. Studies have shown that men with chronic ED might have health problems and it would be wise to see a doctor to get a good physical. ED can be treated with oral medications like PDE-5 Inhibitors like sildenafil citrate (Viagra), Tadafil (Cialis), Vardenafil (Levitra) or Udenafil(Zydena). Traditional therapy is not a good option since the focus is on the penis. Medical treatment focuses on the total man and not only his penis!

Question:
My friend told me that having sex when you’re drunk or high is thrilling and intensely pleasurable. Is this true?

Answer:
Imagine eating something that is suppose to be good is not realized when the taste buds are numb. You end up not knowing what you have eaten and this will not register in your memory bank. The same thing goes for sex when one does it while drunk. You do not know what you did and with whom you finally did it because all memory of the event is not registered and when your sobered down you suddenly realized that you have made a fool of yourself. Sexual relationship is a shared experience with someone very special. Wouldn’t you want to cherish this and keep it alive in your memory bank?