Hello dr! I’ve been married for almost 7 months now, and I’ve noticed that my husband’s libido/interests in sex is kinda decreasing. I understood that he had been busy with his work lately. On the other note, I thought generally all men love to watch porn. My hubby do watch it before, but now he had stopped watching it. Reason-he said its too fake and boring. There are times I’ve invited him to watch together (I do watch porn for thoughts and tips, not addicted) he refused. If I had my period and didn’t have intercourse with him, he seems fine wit it… even up to 2 weeks or more! He’s never even bothered to ask if my period had ended or so.. I’ve confronted him saying how come he’s not being intimate or touchy with me, he just said that he thought I was still bleeding. He said he wouldn’t know until I told him that I’ve completely mense-free. Does it hurt for him to ask if I’ve finished my menses or try asking for sex..? Is it normal for some guys who don’t watch porn? I’ve noticed that it is me whose going all the way up to him from rubbing, caressing etc. Then it’ll start. I’m quite sexually emotional in this matter…How to make him addicted to have sex with me more often? How to make him have the urge of wanting to have sex with me? I’m quite an attractive woman with nice proportions of my body 5 according to him and most people), I’m not being a modest here but it sounds stupid if he finds me unattractive and no sex appeal. Please help me. Thanks dr..
Answer:
Looks like you have done your very best to seduce him and he seems to be cool about it. What was he like when he was chasing you before you tied the knot. For some guys the chasing and hunting part is interesting for them and the moment they get what they wanted, the chasing cools off and life becomes usual, that is back to routine and that is going to work and earning money. For some guys, once they are hitched they take life seriously and they take their partner for granted. They need to be reminded most of the time in a subtle way and they never like to be criticized. You may as well start everything for him, practically take care of him and pamper him the way mummy takes care of her boy and you provide what mummy cannot give him and that is sex. He will love you for that. You don’t have to wait for him to make the move, you make the move and he will take it from there. Continue with your seduction and take him as he is, after all he is the man you married.